I still remember when I attended a girls in science day at the local community college as a teen and they handed me a button that said $.68.
I'd like to think that the pure absurdity of such a fact was the reason why it never fully hit me until much later in my life, when I pulled the shield of internalized misogyny off and allowed myself to be penetrated with what it's like to be a woman today, in what is heralded as a forward-thinking society.
We carry and bear the children who become the game changers, the law makers, the great thinkers who should be defending us, who should be rising up and shaking their fists right along with us and yet we are still treated like second class citizens.
Every single person with a mother should be angry.
I tell my kids about our history and to them it sounds like a fairy tale. "Can you believe that in our lifetime, women weren't able to vote?"
"Isn't it silly that women doing the same job as men don't make as much money?"
It sounds as ridiculous to them as a flying unicorn.
And that's exactly how I want it to stay in their minds. For my girls and my boy.
If birthing four children did anything to me, it tore off my rose-colored glasses. It made me a truthteller. A caller of bullshit.
I tell my children the truth about why I didn't change my name to match their father's.
"Because women were property. We were like things that people could own."
Fuck tradition. Fuck the status quo. Where exactly has that gotten us?
Even though I want to yell, I want to scream and beat certain people with their own Bibles, I do my best to point out the inequalities and injustices with hope for the future.
Because without hope it's just anger.
If we all would just question it, if we would bravely ask our kids, our girls AND our boys, "Isn't it silly?," "Isn't it awful?," or "Isn't it wrong?," I believe there is power in those "yeses."
Your sons should be just as angry as your daughters.
If there is anything I can do my children, if there's anything you can do for yours, it's arming them with the power to ask questions, to ask "why?"
And then give them the courage to do something about it.