A few weeks ago, Tina and I watched in awe as my sister-in-law and her husband obsessed over the direction that the stroller should be facing while the baby napped on the beach.
Of course, this was out of the corner of our eye as we were tending to our six total kids.
But the breeze blows this way and well maybe it should be the other way and just check the wind sock to see OMG JUST LEAVE THE BABY ALONE ALREADY.
Ah, parents with one kid.
Now look, I have many friends with one kid, and I love them, dearly. And I admire their ability to be able to do things that I cannot, which I think is a benefit to the child and not a detriment.
Plus they're not paying out the nose for a babysitter.
But I think even they can relate to the level of helicoptering that can and does take place when you've just got one kid.
I might even add you parents of two kids in there as well.
Granted, just because you have one or two kids doesn't make you a helicopter parent, however, logic tells me that compared to parents who are outnumbered by their childern, you have more of an opportunity to hover.
I'm the first to admit that I have total helicopter parent tendencies, with my own anxiety leading the way to creating a the first anti-bacterial bubble for my children to live safely in.
Even those of you without such tendencies probably still sometimes coddle when you shouldn't, give in when standing your ground is most likely healthier, and you do somet things, maybe even unconsciously, that could fall under the helicopter category.
At our core, we all want our kids to be safe.
But when you have one kid, even two, it's just a lot easier to do all those things that you probably shouldn't. You can wash their binky when it falls on the ground or cut their food into pretty shapes.
Neither of those things are bad, per se', and there's really nothing to say that my kids will be less successful than the kids with pretty shaped food. Or vice versa.
But when you're surrounded by kids, and in my case often alone, a lot of the extra stuff I might do, the time I might have spent hovering and coddling, is forced out of the picture. Not necessarily because I want it to be that way but because that's how it has to be for us to get through our day.
Of course, you can't just tell people "Well, have more kids, then you'll see!" even though I've wanted to.
Okay, I may have said that out loud a couple of times. I'm an asshole like that.
But if you want to loosen up and you want to let go a little (or a lot), what you can do is parent like you have lots of kids.
And if anything, you'll figure out quickly that there's just no physical way we could hover.
We're just too damn tired.