I've watched as the parents who chose to bring their kids to the Aurora, Colorado movie theater have been shamed all over the Internet. Sadly, I've seen the similar first hand: I witnessed my dad blame my mother for my sister's death.
But I'm lucky. So far my own choices have only led to my oldest's broken bones. And I was sick about it for weeks.
What I can tell you that the lesson worth learning wasn't "Don't spin your kid on an office chair" or "Make sure you put a thick carpet under their crib in case they jump out."
It was that sometimes you do things that hurt your kids. Not intentionally. Not with any sort of malice. Sometimes the complete opposite actually.
And then you have to cope.
Here's what I think parents should take away from this recent tragedy. It was hard to write for many reasons, but mainly because it addresses my own biggest fear as a parent.
If only the lesson could be as easy as "Don't go see a midnight showing of a movie."