It only took me seven years as mom to realize that people are always going to judge me.
Heck, I judge me, so how can I expect others not to.
We're human. We judge.
Whether it's because people do something that we'd never do or that we think is harmful or stupid or lame or ridiculous.
We do it even when we don't want to. Even when we say we're not.
"Oh, I'm not judging you. I'd just never do that with my kids."
Um, PS. You're judging.
I watched The Conversation Thread, a web-based talk show on iVillage with host Kelly Wallace (and starring one of my favorite people Mom 101) where one of the guests said she wished moms would just stop judging each other.
She's not the first one to say that. We've all probably wished the same thing. Damn that Sanctimommy.
But we all have our "price" - the one thing that will make us roll our eyes, even if it's inside our heads. Maybe we just have a little more self-control like some moms who don't have a filter.
There are other things that make me raise an eyebrow or grumble under my breath.
Giving your toddler a bottle of Coca Cola for one.
But here's a thought: Instead of all of us shaking our fists in the air saying "we need to all stop judging each other and all get along," maybe we should just start not giving a shit about what other people think.
Let's own our choices.
You want to give your 2-year-old soda in his bottle? I think it's dumb. I'll think about it for 2 seconds and then I'll go on my merry way.
You feel the need to strap your kid to your wrist with a leash? I'm pretty sure there's a better way. But whatever.
And don't worry. I'm pointing the finger right back at me too. I make plenty of parenting choices that will make some people give me the stink eye. Maybe they'll even have the balls to say something to me.
Don't get me wrong. I'll take what they say into consideration. I'm always open to new ideas, to learning a better way to do things if there is one.
But in the end, there's one big difference: I don't give a shit about what you think about me.
If we could all adopt that confidence in ourselves, then maybe, we'd all be able to clink our glasses together, regardless of what snacks our kids are eating or what bottle or boob they're drinking from, and talk about something else for a change.