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June 20, 2011


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I'm a little late commenting but had to chime in. My youngest just turned 5. I'm also 41. I was having horrible PMS. I tried doing all the things *they* say you're supposed to do - Yoga (love it), letting go of stress, sleeping more, eating better, yada, yada, yada. I still wanted to smash something. About 3 months ago, the doctor did blood tests and then prescribed: Fluoxetine (lowest available dose) and Vitamin D. I am a new woman. I still have all my emotions, they are just proportionate! No more wanting to throw dinner at my husband. No more gritting my teeth just to get through spending time with my adorable children.

Anyway - see the doctor. Could be as simple as a vitamin issue. Could be a mild anti-depression issue. Could just be life and you'll be over it soon.

Pretty things will help! Do it! My first postpartum period happened 21 months into being a new, breastfeeding momma. The month before it actually returned, I was in a constant rage. Well, for the 2 weeks leading up to it. And I had no idea why! And the next period had me feeling more anxious than I'd ever felt in my entire life. So then I decided to increase my intake of omega 3s, and start calcium, vitamin D, and a B complex on top of it. I'm also still taking my prenatal vitamin. I don't know whether the supplements have helped (my doctor suggested them as an alternative to taking Sarafem for severe PMS) or whether my hormones have finally leveled out, but I feel GREAT now. Just food for thought in case the pretty things don't work as well as you'd like.

I totally feel you! Before kids I had no PMS, no cramps, I was blessed with a "normal" period. Now I turn into a complete bitch, I can actually feel myself ovulate, WTF is that? I have my tubes tied, I don't understand why I still have to go thru. this, and put my family thru it as well! I have used birth contol pills and Depo...both made me feel like I was 6 months pregnant. I did use the ring thing, that was better, but my awesome effin' insurance no longer covers it.I don't know what the answer is, wish I did, except to rip it all out and get rid of the monthly BS for good...although I don't wanna take hormones for the rest of my life. damned if I do, damned if I don't.

VITEX!!! it's an herb, it balances hormones, it's safe, natural, no side effects, and makes PMS go away!!! but i'm not a doctor, so do your research and talk to a naturopath. and yes, hormonal birth control will make it worse, worse, worse.

I have found that after the nearly 4.5 year break from periods, my cycle is a different animal. It's a beast. I loathe it. Pregnancy is tempting.

It is sort of a mystery when it comes back. My daughter turned 9 months old, today actually and I'm still period free (and ain't complaining!)

I'm on the pill now and I feel like it doesn't help, but I definitely think it depends on the pill and on you.

I despise the return of menstrating. I also despise the word menstrating.

Good luck!

My mood swings got worse after I hit 40, too. And I'm on anti-depressants. That's some powerful hormone shit right there.

I agree with the others - def. see your doc. And...have them check your thyroid and blood iron while they're at it. I learned from that simple blood test that I was deficient in both, which accounted for some of the moodiness and fatigue.

All I can say is that after I hit 40, my periods have become the most evil mood-swing things ever. I become irrationally unhappy for a few days beforehand, convinced I'm bipolar or having a nervous breakdown. Then, the headaches hit (as in now) and I can barely see straight. Oh, and they are now every 2-3 weeks as my eggs start to jump the sinking ship before I hit full-on menopause.

Oh, wait, am I supposed to cheer you up? I'm sorry.

My doctor prescribed something for me, but I already take so much asthma stuff, I refuse to take another drug for this. I just drink lots of coffee and eat chocolate by the handful. So far it's working.

My PMS became much stronger after having kids...but I'd say give it time. Those first few months are a little weird having it back...I typically replayed the "Carrie" shower scene every time I went to the bathroom.

I do awful with hormonal birth control. Have you considered the ring or IUD?

My daughter is 7.5 months and last week I had a terrible hormonal breakdown that included sobbing, throwing a candle, and breaking a soap dispenser in two with my bare hands. 2 days later my period appeared and everything slowly evened out. 3 days in I felt fine. I remember this happening 7 months after my son was born too but then I got pregnant with #2 the following month so I have no idea if it was a one time thing or if this will happen every month... We'll see. Hopefully.

If you have a Naturopath in your area (not sure if they are licensed in your state) but they might have some ideas how to get your body back on track naturally. My Dr. is trying to get my cycle more regular so that my libido will come back and she has me on a few herbal supplements that are supposed help regulate my hormones. Just some food for thought.

Can't not chime in--mirena iud was hell for me. 6 straight months of a period, constant cramping, major chocolate cravings, weight gain (prob all the chocolate I felt my body was forcing me to eat), hair loss. Plus, it was in right (I had two check it by ultrasound), and I could still feel the damn thing. Found out later I have a short something inside that region. Needless to say, took it out, started the regular pill & was preggers with my 4th child within days. Obviously, pregnancy was not the plan--my oldest was 4.5. We took the safe route & Mr. got snipped. :) Alyhough, I'm really glad the birth control failed--have four is awesome!

I have to cast my vote for Mirena. It also worked wonders for me. I hope you start feeling better soon!

I also have had really great luck with the Mirena IUD. I got one after my first child, since I was a hormonal mess on birth control, and it was AMAZING! No more periods, no more cramps, no more PMS. About the only thing I get is a bit of a sweet craving once a month. I had it taken out when we wanted to have baby #2, and I was pregnant 6 weeks later, so no problems with that. I had another one put in not long after our second baby was born in September 2010, and I'm having good luck with this one too. I've heard other women talk about weight gain and thinning hair, but I haven't experienced that at all. In fact, after reading your blog, I started the 30 day shred, and I've lost 15 pounds and kept it off pretty easily. I don't know if it will help you, but it sure worked for me!

The female body should be able to shut down all periods after you are done with having babies. RIGHT NOW.

I have found that sugar really makes me go straight to crazy town during that time. So I try to avoid that.

Hormonal birth control. No thanks.

I really hope you find some relief from this very soon. Try the calcium magnesium or ask about SJW? XO

Dude. I feel you. My body made me feel crazy. I love my Mirena IUD. I barely even have a period & only have minor cramps. And I don't have to deal with birth control at all. No pills to remember to take, no big ass tampons to buy & no gross-y reservoir tips to handle.

I do hope you can find a way to help you stop feeling like shit & start feeling like you can shoot glitter out of your vadge. I believe in you.

I definitely recommend some kind of birth control intervention - there are some forms of the pill that are used to treat PMS, but personally I got a Mirena IUD after my baby was born. It took a little adjustment time, but now I barely get a period, and no more of the horrible PMS/cramps that I used to get.

It's been a while since I had that first period - I actually stopped breastfeeding at around that same time, and I also recall the hormonal jump to be pretty horrendous. Over the years since though it's gotten better, and I am not on any meds or the pill. (Tubes tied the last round). I think it takes time for the body to regulate back to a level - and I'd bet with as many years as you've been either pregnant, breastfeeding, both!, it might even be extended time for your body to adjust. I still have moments of wanting (and coming very close to) biting heads off of anyone within reach, but I can mostly keep it down to a couple of days of that and now pre-warn everyone within ear shot to tread lightly.

Remembering to apologize is a necessity of course, recognizing what's happening (and verbalizing it in someway to those around you) is half the battle. But if you do feel like those hormones need to come on a little more slowly than what you can handle, yep see your doc and don't feel guilty about it AT ALL.

I'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on t.v., but I know exactly what you're talking about. I talked to my doc about it and he said, "Let me guess. You feel horrible the week you ovulate. Then you have horrible pms. Then you have a horrible period. So you have one week out of the month where you feel like a normal human being." Exactly! Unfortunately the only thing he could offer me was getting back on the pill, which I don't want to do. So I really have no advice except stock up on chocolate and wine. Hope you find some answers!

I recently tried the pill and couldn't make it past 2 1/2 wks. Talk about feeling pregnant! I was moody, nauseous, and EXTREMEMLY tired...everyone said the symtoms would disappear in a month or 2 or 3, but the side effects were so bad I couldn't imagine dealing with them for that long. Now I'm trying some all natural options, so far, so good.

We are in the same gross, bloated, hyper-sensitive, red sea (ew), boat. My period just came back two weeks ago as my 7 month old cut her first tooth. The week before, my husband almost jumped ship. I've always struggled with fierce PMS, but have never found relief. I'm also shitty with hormonal drugs and have been afraid to go on the pill because I read it could cause my milk supply to drop. I'm going to look into the Evening Primrose suggestion, but just wanted you to know you are not alone.

I used to take Evening Primrose Oil when I went through brutal PMS and it seemed to work wonders for me.

I'm a bitch the week or so before, I realise I'm being a bitch, but I can't help it... and it makes up for all the other times through the month I'm not when I should be!

The Pill... meh... made me into a hormonal mess. Depo-provera [no idea what you guys call it over there] didn't work for me, I've got a 6yo to prove it lol And have you read the warning pamphlet that comes with that? Freaky.

Stock up on chocolate [and some alcoholic beverages if you think you'll need them], a new pair of fluffy socks and a heat pack to celebrate the great event.... and sit back and wait. If it comes it comes, if it doesn't in a couple of weeks and you still feel like crap... make use of paying that health plan and see the doc.

I think it depends on the person. When I got PMS, I was a cross between the Hulk and the pea soup spewing, head spinning Linda Blair. My husband's mere breathing irritated me to the point I wanted to rip off his head and spit down his neck. I was told later that I probably had PMDD before it had a name, but since it didn't have a name when I was a hormonal teen, I was left to suffer with a tsk tsk and "Go buy some Midol," until after I had my first child 10 years ago.

Now, I'm on a form of birth control that causes me to not have a period, and keeps my moods (mostly) on an even keel. I wish I could say it's a one size fits all thing, but any time I mention what I'm on, almost every other woman chimes in how much she hates it.

If it's really that bad, talking to your doc can't hurt.

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