Be a better spouse challenge Day 29: Go to bed together

I realize there are times when you're on different schedules and doing different things, especially if you're like me and you tend to work at night.

But I do think this Challenge #29: Go to bed together is important.

It doesn't need to be all the time, but there's something about finishing your day together, crawling into bed, and either falling asleep or waiting for your children to come in and wake you up.

For awhile, my husband and I weren't sleeping in the same bed - something we do when we have newborns in the house. I sleep in the guest bed with the baby and he's upstairs with the kids. And while it's nice to have a little personal space (in fact, I've written about how much I do really love to sleep alone), there's something lonely about it too.

And I've heard "the experts" say how important it is to sleep in the same bed with your partner/spouse if anything to just stay connected. Makes sense to me.

So if you don't do it, try it. And if you do, well, look at that. You're one ahead!

Tomorrow's our last day! I'd love to know how the month went!

Comments

[Amy - Parenting Gone Mad]

I couldn't agree more! Whilst you're at it, if you have a TV in your room, get rid of it!

[Renee]

If my husband is in town, we almost ALWAYS go to bed together. On occasion, I will go to bed to get some extra rest while he has some alone time with the XBOX.

[Kate @ SurroundedbyPenises]

This is one I've been guilty of in the past. After kids go to bed is "MY" time...and hubs gets up sometimes around midnight-3am...so we were passing each other in the hall. Not good for the marriage at all! He thought I was avoiding him...when really I was just relaxing. Now, I go to bed when he goes...unless it's SUPER early cuz he has to get up super early...can't very well go before the kids do lol

[The Dalai Mama]

Ah--bed together. We used to do this religiously before kids and even a little while after we brought our son home from Ethiopia. But now, we do it less and less. My husband thinks he needs less sleep than I know I need.

I'd say that maybe one night out of 7 we get to bed at the same time. I miss it--we would talk a little and snuggle. It was a great way to connect a little.

I'll have to work on this one.

The challenge has been great and I'm sure I will be returning to the archives when things seem a little disconnected at home and I have to admit this challenge couldn't have come at a better time for my husband and I. Thank you....

[Katie]

Sometimes I fantasize about sleeping on the couch and leaving the hubs and baby to the bedroom. Ahhh, to stretch out and not have various limbs poking me, hehe, all thru the night would be lovely! But my feet get cold and nothing warms them better than shoving them under the husbands ass when he's sleeping and I'm up for the 3rd time nursing the spawn. :)

This challenge has really kicked my butt, but it needed kicking. I still need to repeat a few of the challenges (still struggling with holding in what I need and then exploding for no reason), but all in all I found it humbling to not point the finger at him and really take responsibility for any shortcomings. And we had better sex then ever this month, so ya, that ROCKS!

Can't wait for tomorrow's challenge so that I can go back to being an uber-bitch on Thursday. :)

[The Mommy Therapy]

When my husband and I enter a string of not sleeping in the same bed....usually due to our children's sleep or lack of it, it definitely creates a disconnect for the two of us. So important to end and start together.