I realize that this might not exactly be the best time to take on a month long challenge, but shit, if I waited for a "good time" for anything in my life, I'd probably still be single with no kids, lounging around in my underpants right now.
Wait a second...
Alright so, anyway, I've decided to give myself daily challenges to help reconnect me with my better parent. I'm under the impression that I'm actually already pretty good, but it's life, interruptions, and all the other crap that get in the way of my fulfilling my potential.
They learned me good in therapist school didn't they?
All that means is that I don't know if it's anything I actually need to learn, but rather things I already know that I need to put into practice.
Feel free to join me. Or laugh at me. Or ignore me. I'm guessing it won't be the prettiest thing, nor will it be easy, but I'm hoping that we'll all benefit.
Challenge #1: Being present for my kids
So often, I find myself ignoring what they're saying because I'm already onto something else that needs to be done. I'll say "Yes, that's great now go [insert chore that I've told them to do 300 times already]" and I have absolutely no clue what they said.
Or, I admit it, I'm just not listening. I'm tuning out. Escaping. Even though my body is quite obviously there.
Today, I'm going to listen to what they're trying to tell me first, and then speak. And I'm going to try to not be thinking about something else while they're talking. That doesn't mean I won't be doing other things. I can't spend every waking minute with them. But when they ask me something, or address me, or tell me a reallllllly long ass story, I will be there, in the moment. And I will listen. Not just hear.
I'll let you know how that went tomorrow. And I'll be back with another challenge!