It's true that a break from the kids can do wonders for your parenting skills. It also means that you can get a little overwhelmed when you get home from being without them for four days to having them all over you for the next however many hours straight.
If there's anything that doing this challenge has done it's made me more in control of my actions and reactions. I think much more about what I'm going to say and how I'm going to say it, regardless of the day's challenge.
I've also been writing down my triggers, which are often related to the following:
- lack of sleep;
- my attempt at doing way too much on my own (as in, trying to do work, kids are downstairs playing then fighting, me losing it);
- and my frustration with things that are out of my control and/or things not directly related to my interactions with my kids (i.e. fights with my spouse).
Case in point: My daughter's 2-week long cold (and cough) that is still here upon my return from BlogHer. I get super anxious when my kids are sick and I actually find myself being less understanding (which I realize is odd). It's like I'm annoyed with the cold itself so I take it out on her. She's now got a fever and a stomachache (off to the ped today, apparently), so then I end up feeling like an idiot when I get snippy with her.
So Challenge #9: Find your triggers
The ability to figure out what sends you off the deep end and into the abyss of parenting madness is the first step in keeping those outbursts to a minimum.