Back in my days as a college professor, I once counted the number of times a student therapist said "good job" to her client in a 30-minute session.
53. Or something ridiculous like that.
I'm not going to quote any number of studies that talk about how we're over praising our kids. I've got mixed emotions about that stuff anyway, especially considering I never got any praise whatsoever, but I do agree that when we compliment our kids, it should be specific and creative. Because after awhile it just doesn't mean anything anymore.
So, Challenge #3: No more "Good Job!"
For my student, I printed out a sheet that had 100 other words and phrases to use instead. I'm sure you can all figure out a few.
Great observation. I like how you think. I really appreciate that you said "thank you." Awesome work. Good choice. You did it!
And be specific - why are you praising your kid? Make sure they know.
So, how did Challenge #2 go for you, by the way? My son only ended up in the corner once today, which was a minor miracle, but had to do with the fact that I had my sitter and my husband home. But since it was on my mind, I was much more aware of it when I was counting and reminding him of consequences if I got to #3. Now I just have to keep it up every day, right?