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June 03, 2010


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That's the kind of image that i really thing is super image like. If more images very real like this were out there we'd be super full of graet images in the world.

Hm...I can say yes to 6 of these, does that make me HAPA by proxy? Or something.

That was nice. Want to hug again?.......

*Learn to live, and live to learn.

Believe it or not, this full Chinese cannot do the #8 accent for the life of her. My white husband does it better than me! Maybe it was all that time I spent losing my accent (which I never had ;)).

{{Hugs}} for you HAPA girl!

Haha Naomi!

I never realized it was a "thing" until I left Hawaii and suddenly became exotic. Or Mexican, if I happened to be in Texas. Ha.

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And I gave my boys extra hugs today too.

Does the Hapa designation only apply to those who are half white and half asian?

Wow, this post had me really confused - but only because my multi-tasking, never-doing-anything-quite-properly brain read it as "hug half an Asian", and all I could think of was "which half? and why?"...
Oh, and by the way, I'm not even remotely Asian (Scottish mother, English father, me, pure Brit - white skin, red hair, freckles, blue eyes) but I sure could do with a hug today...
Hugs all round, I say!

Yes, half-Japanese. Hence, my maiden name is Tanaka. I love how my Mom was constantly questioned about her last name being Japanese but then she is not. Marriage people, by marriage! GAH! I get Hawaiian, Polynesian, Italian, Greek, First Nations, but never half or full Japanese. I don't mind being called Oriental as I think the distinction is better than being called something that I am not. That's my opinion. I can spot a halfer a mile away. Takes one to know one! Heh. Oh yes, my children have almond eyes but they are blond haired and blue-eyed. Everyone thinks I am the Nanny!

When we lived in Texas my son was a minority for being half Filipino. Since moving the Northern Cal, he's a minority for being half white. We just can't win! In any case, I'll give BOTH of my half-Asian kiddos a squeeze today. Or at least not look so put out when they scream for no apparent reason.

Yeah, I'll go with the first one.

Every kid at my son's daycare (except him!) is at least half-Asian, so I'll give them all an extra squeeze today.

(As I understand it, Oriental is bad because it means "Eastern," which means we're defining the world as if the "white countries" were at the center of it. Is that right?)

I realize that Kristen has nothing to do with this, but the references to Asian, Oriental, etc are causing the Google ads to show an ad for a website where you can "Find Pretty Thai Women". YIKES!

Great list! No one realizes my daughter is half-Korean unless she's with her dad. I hug her every day, but she got an extra one today.

@Tony -- I was going to go into a long winded comment about this, but just go see http://www.thefreedictionary.com/oriental -- scroll down to the usage note. That basically captures it.

Also, whenever I meet a dude with an Asian fetish (it becomes apparent quickly...) I venture a guess that he's looking at me and thinking the word Oriental. {shudder}

HOLY CRAP 'what are you?' is a pick up line? This whole time I thought people were just being dumb @ss WASPs...
(I only wish I had your response 15 years ago)

My husband is half Thai, half caucasian and is a police officer in our very small redneck (read: racist) town. He gets recognized as 'that "Mexican" cop' a lot. Like, a LOT. With our daughter, I hear "Wow, she looks Asian, but WHITE!" quite a bit. I've even had someone tell me our daughter speaks with an Asian accent - um, she's 2 1/2 years old. Her dad has lived here since he was 5 years old. She's not even in contact with any Asian relatives. Do they think she was born with 1/4 an Asian accent?

What the hell is wrong with people?

And let me just say, our daughter has her daddy's eyes, the rest are my features (including, as the hubs says, my 'crappy white person hair') and she is BEAUTIFUL. She would totally give you the best hug, from one Asian Sista to another.

My childhood best friend is half-Chinese, half-mixed European. She looks Chinese.

She has a blue-eyed blonde daughter (aren't genes just somethin') and people ask her ALL THE TIME if her daughter is adopted.

She went to visit her extended in-laws and they said, "Well, honey, your English is great. No accent at all!"

And number 7 - they actually speak to her IN Chinese. She doesn't speak Chinese.

We have a long way to go. I think you need a (((HUG)))

Aw, thanks, for the shout-out and the hugs. Totally with you on your list, although I was a dismal failure in the stringed instrument category. You forgot "give most awesome, scary, bone-chilling stink-eye/death stare when crossed."


Out of curiosity, what is the reason that the word Oriental is so bad? I don't mean to offend. I realize it's offensive to most. I just don't know the history behind WHY it is considered so offensive.

I just let my son do 4. I've owned a rice cooker for years since he eats so much of it. He even has a "proper ratio" as too how much rice goes with the entrée when I cook at home. Loves pho (can that be #12?). And of course is number 10 because mixed babies are the hottest around HAPA or not.

Rock on. My father was Chinese-Hawaiian and my mother was mixed European, so I came out with shark-bait white skin, black hair and Asian eyes. I've been a cheerful member of the Haole Hubby Club for a few years now. HAPA marriages make the cutest babies, don't you think? (http://haolehubbyclub.com/blog/)

#8 is my favorite, though I once got typecast as an old asian MAN in a school play because I could "talk like them so well." Harrumph.

My best friend in high school was Chinese/Italian/Greek. There weren't many restaurants we went to that we didn't get the #7 treatment.
BTW, (((((HUGS!)))))
Wow, that was pretty rad. ;)


That was nice. Want to hug again?

This cracked me up. I'm half Korean but look more white (or at least have been told that many, many times) so here in Utah people often let down their guard and say stupid racist things in front of me to which I more often than not gleefully call them on.

Yo, I'll hug you any day of the year.

BTW, this post generated a Google Ad for "pretty Thai women" in your right sidebar.

OK, #7 made me laugh because I get the "you're one of us" nod at pretty much every single eating establishment.One of the many awesome things about being Hispanic.

Also, #4 and #10 apply to us too.

Can I get a hug as well?


Hm...I can say yes to 6 of these, does that make me HAPA by proxy? Or something.

C'mere. Sounds like you need a hug. ;)

Well, maybe because I'm full not half I still can't stand the word Oriental. You will never catch me ordering the Oriental chicken salad at a restaurant.

Also, I might venture to add #11: uses rice as paste when tape or regular glue cannot be found (I learned this from my mom -- works in a pinch when you're wrapping presents...). You know, because you may not always have tape on hand, but there's always a pot of rice on.

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