I've been a work-at-home-mom since I left my job as a university professor back in 2005.
Okay, so really I was a stay-at-home-mom because I'd hardly qualify writing this blog as working.
And I began writing more than just scholarly journal articles, though I'd like to think that my Mominatrix column is somewhat scholarly.
And all of a sudden I was doing a bit more than I could with kids running around, or in the couple hours that they were napping and the few hours at night before I'd collapse on my bed with a remote and a bunch of rich housewives bitching at each other.
It's been a challenge managing my work with my job as primary parent most of the time. And it's been even harder balancing all that within the confines of a relationship. Part of the difficulty was due to the fact that much of what I did and still do developed over time.
It was never a position that I accepted or a job that I took.
And so many people, including my husband, still saw me as a SAHM with a business on the side, when really I was a WAHM without childcare.
What a difference a title makes.
Thankfully, we've come to a place where what I do is not just "playing on the computer."
Most of the time.
And with the help of some part-time childcare now, we're both able to do what we need to do without one of us feeling guilty or getting pissed off.
But I still find working from home a challenge. The distractions are plenty, and it never fails that I'm sucked away from a project by the large load of laundry or pile of dishes. And while that's not a big deal all the time, I do feel as though I'd be able to get more work done, and thus have to sit in front of the screen for less time, if I had a quiet space where I could go to write.
And that's just what I've found.
A cool co-working space about 25 minutes from my house. I pay a small monthly fee to have access along with a bunch of other professionals like me, so I can go with my laptop to an "office" and work in the peace and quiet whenever I choose.
Of course, the challenge will be to actually get the work done there so I don't end up working there and at home all hours of the day. I'm really hoping it will let me be more focused on my work so that I can be more focused on what's going on at home.
But it's a start.
And boy does it feel good.