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June 17, 2007


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Holy shit...one would think it was a novel, or a movie, not what happens to someone we know. I'm so sorry it ended like that Kirsten...thank you for sharing such a painful memory with the rest of us to learn from...you are healing the wounds through your own motherhood...

wow Kristen - that is a stunning story. i can't even think of words to say. you are an amazingly strong woman and a superb mother and i admire you.

Beth B. (mommy to a busy 3 3/4 yr old)


You are who you BELIEVE and KNOW yourself to be, and NONE of what he ever said to you.

I wish I could just hug you.....

I don't understand why some parents hurt their children like that. My bf has difficulties with his father who is dying from cancer after a long drawn out heart transplant ordeal. They made ammends because of our son's birth.
You deserved better and none of that shit was your fault. You went above and beyond from the sounds of it...

I have read your blog FOREVER - thanks for sharing this - how painful! And I thought I had it bad with my piece of shit father!

OMG Kristen.
What a nightmare for you!
What a great family you have now.
Peace to you

Wow that is all I can muster! Wonderful post, sad and amzing all on one.

Why would a parent ever do this to a child? I'm so sorry for what you had to go through.

I don't know what to say...but thanks for sharing...and please always repost this...it is an important story to tell and remember.

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story.
My mother died of cancer a year and a half ago. We had a very complicated relationship that I'll likely never fully understand. I've mostly felt numbness over these many months that seem to have gone by in a big fast blur.

Can we be friends? I can really relate to you..I am not sure if my father is still alive (he was very sick the last time I saw him) and I really don't care, he is/was an asshole who contributed very little to my life. Thankfully, my children can celebrate father's day with their wonderful daddy

Some people have so little inside them that the only way they can "fill" themselves is by tearing others down...including those with the most to lose like their spouses and children. Fortunetly some (like you) can recognize what is going on and reject this sad "taking" of the spirit. You must be a strong person to have survived this.

You touch many people with your entries...especially this one. Thank you for what you do and keep doing it. Know that your children will never think that of you and thankfully will never know the full meaning of what you went through.
My mother's mom is a very mean, cold Sicilian...and she has had her share of verbal and physical abuse. It has left her and my aunt with so many issues, but made them both the most amazing mothers.

That was so sad and so beautiful at the same time. You are something.

Kristen, I really really do empathize. My father's last words to me three months before he died were "Fuck you". It really sucks.

Thank you for sharing, Kristen.

I had NO idea growing up. It's odd how well we all hide the disfunction and abuse.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Damn! When I read or hear of stories like yours, it makes me really glad to know that the focal person (you in this case, obviously) has persevered. No one should have to go through that. Ever.

If i live to be 200 I will never understand people. I hope knowing that you are a much better, loving & nurturing parent is enough to heal a little bit of that pain Kristen.

xoxoxo. Love you, K.

Oh my goodness Kristen. You have become such an amazing person in spite of him. You are awesome and don't you forget it.

Thanks for sharing this. I'm sorry doesn't even come close. I agree with Sam above...you are FAR (a million times) from nothing. I have a great deal of respect and admiration for you. Strange, given I don't know you.

Thanks for sharing your story.

I don't know what else to say. Expect you are FAR, FAR, FAR from nothing.

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