It Does Get Easier, Right? RIGHT?????

Please.

Just don't tell me that it's just different.

I mean, I know that it's just different and not easier. I know that after my daughter turned two and was sleeping in her bed that my rejoicing would only last a few weeks until she started writing all over herself with a magic marker at naptime and I'd have to offer her some type of product with high fructose corn syrup to sleep which really, in a sense, is like giving her coffee.

I KNOW.

But holy lord. These two little rugrats are getting the better of me.

It's either nice clothes or make-up. Not both. And it's either shower and hair washing or shower and shaving. Not both. And it's either the toddler or the baby sleeping.

NOT BOTH.

Oh no. Why would that happen? Two sleeping children at the same time. Bah. Who wants to be dealt that easy hand? I'll take two rowdy children with stuffy noses and a penchant for ripping, dumping, and spitting out food.

And I'm hungry because I don't get a chance to eat. And my bladder hurts because I hold my pee waaaaaaaaay too long for someone who's had two kids.

Kegels my ass.

So, please. For today. Just tell me it gets easier.

Comments

[Denise]

Anyone out there with a (almost) 1 and (almost) 3 year old? I feel more like a referee than a mom and then the almost 1 year old cries when I am not around. She is very needy which drives me about nuts because the 3 year old always needs help with something which makes the 1 year old cry and scream louder. I was told by my MIL it is just signs of being a mom but PLLLLEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAASSSSE I had no idea. Any suggestions anyone?

[Holly E.]

How do you get in my head and know what I'm thinking! ;) I have a 2-year-old boy who is soooo active and definitely in the smack dab middle of the dreaded "Terrible Twos" and a 5-month-old little girl who would have me hold her day and night if she had her way! And, both have been teething at the same time lately ... so there are days I just sit and cry right along with them! Ha ha! I'm with you that I hope it gets easier, and not just different! ;)

[Darlene]

I am not sure being a Mom is ever easy, but it does get better. I have 5 kids ages 9, 7, 4, 2 and 4 months and an wonderfully helpful husband. It is so much fun when the kids get older and you can carry on an actual conversation with them. Plus my 9 yr old can sometimes entertain my 2 yr old and get her to do things that she would never do for me. Right now with 2 in diapers - not counting me :) - and a 4 yr old that is totally afraid of wiping herself, I just can't wait until the only butt I wipe is my own! Oh and the carseats -- I totally can't wait until I don't have to buckle 5 bajillion buckles to go anywhere! But I will miss the baby snuggles and sweet, slobbery baby kisses. So easier - no, different - yes.

[allison]

easier? I always laugh when friends who are just now on #2 ask that. Mine 4 and 2....when I finally figure out a way to make it work...and then five mintures later... everything gets thrown out the window...I've heard the same..."easier after 4". But I'm convinced that's because they are in school then and gone 5 days a week for 4+ hours...and I'm sure once I get that wrangled...i'll be in the phase of gossip and heart breaks...so maybe I guess we are suppose to treasure these "bad" moments because I'd take diahrea, running noses and fit over her lost dora doll...than the day I hear a boy said he didn't like....we are screwed....it's sooooo overwhelming.....ahhhhhhhh

[Jenni]

I agree with Christy; it does get easier--- in a way. I do get my shower, meals, and pee when I need/want. However, my youngest (at 4 years old) still usually finds a reason to come "talk" to me when I am showering or peeing!

The physical demands are now easier that they potty themselves and dress themselves, etc. But, the issues now are sibling rivalry/ arguments, keeping them from destroying the house, and not too much TV/computer time.

And, you may (as I do now!) look back on this time and think 'why didn't I just enjoy my precious babies more, and not sweat the messes and personal hygeine!'.

Hang in there Kristen, it does get easier- but it is always changing!

[Arkie Mama]

Mine are 4 (daughter) and 2 (son).

It's not that it gets "easier," but that it starts to feel more normal.

You gain confidence as they find new independence.

My daughter doesn't nap. But she does have "quiet time" during which she's allowed to play or read in her room while her brother sleeps.

It's only an hour or so, but god, what a sanity-saver.

And, as Farily Odd Mother noted -- they start to play together -- yay!

I am so loving this new form of interaction.

[Fairly Odd Mother]

Mine are 2, 4 & 6, and yes, it does get easier in the sense that they aren't so needy as a baby. I'm no longer nursing, and only one is in diapers (hooray!). Also, they will PLAY TOGETHER which makes such a huge difference---the tough thing is that their messes are bigger, their fights are louder and they still need me like all get-out. But, hang in there. I can't say it is easy, but it does get different from what you are doing now.

[Christy]

Mine are 4 and 6, and it really does get easier. Having a baby and toddler is exhausting. Having two little ones who require you for absolutely everything is exhausting. They will eventually be able to do more for themselves, they'll play together, and you'll have more time. I do think parenting seems to get more complicated as they get more independent, but the actual workload gets much easier.

[Amy]

It gets easier. Yes...it does. My YOUNGEST is four, and OMFG it's easier. Hang in there mommas.

[Janet a.k.a Wonder Mom]

I can't help you. I'm so sorry. I only have one (for good reason) and it's still not easy...I can't imagine two....

I am thinking of you. often.

[Jason]

I hear it gets easier, but I haven't seen it yet. I have parent friends that say that the perfect age is between 4 and 12. I have to wait a year just for one of mine to reach that age. We'll see what happens next year; but I'm not holding my breath :)

[Kelly]

I'll just sit here and wait and hope like HELL someone comes along and gives you and myself the answer we're looking for cause OMMFG (sorry, not usually a cusser) I don't know how much longer I can take this.