I haven't quite figured out the fear that many parents have about raising a gay child. I can think of about 1200 more challenging and time consuming issues than worrying about whether my kid is gay or not.
But alas, being straight is an obsession. Actually, it's more than that.
It's the norm.
We live in a world of forced norms. We look at runway models and television actresses and digest their size as "normal." We watch the societal progression of college, job, marriage, and kids and believe that's how it's "supposed to be."
And what then, for our different children? Our children who don't follow what we believe is "the right path." Is that so terrible? Or perhaps is it because we fear what it says about us? That the reflection of their difference somehow makes us appear incapable and failing?
And what if these differences are biological? We punish them because they can't change who they are and feel responsible for what (for the most part) we had no control over and could not change.
Um. Yeah. Makes perfect sense.
The only reason I wouldn't wish for my children to be gay would be so that they wouldn't have to suffer, hide, or be embarrassed -- that they could walk the streets and be who they are without fear.
But worry about it? Hell no.
Quite frankly, I'd take a gay son over a son who acts like my straight mother-in-law any day.
Thanks for starting the battle, MLK. Let's hope everyone keeps on fighting it.