Motherhood Uncensored

Diversity Anyone?

I realized that a lot of the blogs I read are written by white men and women. In fact, most of the blogs here at Clubmom are written by white women.

I know. They're the majority, right? And if you think about it, you have to be in a fairly privileged position to be blogging - computer, internet access. Even if you blog at work, you have to have a computer there, right?

And so, I wonder, where are the diverse bloggers? I've encountered some great blogs by black women, and the community of Asian bloggers on the web is astounding. And I've seen a few gay and lesbian blogs. But what about folks from different cultural backgrounds, namely religion, sexual orientation, etc.

Where are those blogs? They are parents too, right? Moms, yes? And I want to read them. I want to search them out and learn about their parenting experiences. As someone who values cultural diversity, I think it's silly for me not to want to branch out. Certainly we all desire common ground -folks that share common cultural beliefs. However, if I desire to offer the same diversity to my child, why the heck am I reading so many damn white people blogs?

Am I a total walking hypocrite?

Where are the parenting blogs by folks of color and other diverse cultures (that includes religion, sexuality, gender, age, class, etc.)? Let me know. I want to read them.

Here's the list I have come up with so far:

To-Ethiopia

Khatina

Jennifer

Kimchi Mamas

MetroDad

Daddy in a Strangeland

Rice Daddies

Chookooloonks

Lady M

CityMama

Denise

Grace

I Love You, She Said...

... lifting her head off the pillow for the 240th time.

"I love you too, baby" I replied. More than the air I breathe.

Now for the love of all things sacred in this universe, particularly my sanity, please go to sleep.

(1 hour and 25 minutes into waiting for her to fall asleep for her nap).

More on this tomorrow...

The Cruise Tries to Schmooze

Apparently, Tom Cruise is trying to smooth things over regarding the Brooke Shields debaucle. From what I can figure out, it's not an apology, nor are the words directly quoted from his mouth, but rather interpretations and sentiments being shared by his rep.

So basically, it's nothing.

And from what I can read, the only thing he's really said (again through a rep) is that his statements were misrepresented. So, his direct quotes that I heard on Oprah and Today were not really from his mouth? I mean, did some martian come down and speak them for him? I guess with some of the stuff that's been going on with him, it wouldn't be that far off if they blamed it on aliens.

I imagine it's his staff's attempts to patch things up with Paramount. Or perhaps Katie is struggling and he realizes that maybe he put his foot pretty far down his throat and it might behoove him (both personally and professionally) to get it out of there.

I'm saddened to see Katie out and about (with and without him) sans baby. I imagine it's got to be tough to not be able to take your child out. And then I wonder - why is she NOT doing it? I understand the paparazzi are chasing her down and dying to get a picture, however, isn't there a point when you just have to get over it and get out with your baby?

I hate to be sucked in by this yet again, however, it's hard to ignore. Particularly when it comes to the topic of Post Pardum Depression. The only thing that I can hope for is that he gains some clarity.

And for god sakes stops jumping on couches.

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Speaking of which, I might just have to go jump on some couches myself. My post on fear in motherhood is up at the Huffington Post along with the wonderfully talented Her Bad Mother.

I Have Cracked the Blog Top Sites Code

A few months ago, I read a few posts surrounding the mystery that we call "Blog Top Sites." Apparently that little number that fluctuates between what I think are the coordinates to the Russian Space Station and the number of times I farted yesterday wreaks much havoc in the minds of mommybloggers.

Granted, it sucks to see yourself listed as #72. But seriously, if you ever take about 2 seconds to scan through the thing, you realize that it's a total sham. OR, it's a system set up by the Communists to program us into submission.

Wait, are there even still Communists? And if so, do they even have computers?

You have to question it when you see, for example, my numbers last week: 1,867,287 unique hits this reset.

YEAH. And I'm pregnant with Tom Cruise's quadruplets.

C'mon people. I am nowhere near 1 million hits. In fact, I'm nowhere near 1 million anything. Caloric intake on Sunday? My husband's last sperm count? Times I've said FUCK on this blog? Maybe. But that's about it.

And did you see who's in the lead right now? Currently it's a blog that hasn't been updated since last month.

If that doesn't clue you in to the insanity, then I don't know what will.

But no worries. If you still hate being #56, check out the secret formula they use to determine the rankings. I'm no mathematical genius here, but believe me, it didn't take that long to figure it out.

X = Your mother's age x the number of times you had sex last month + the probability that Suri Cruise is real divided by my bra size + 1 (don't forget the 1 - it's important).

Simple.

Now go have more sex. For all you know, it might raise your Blog Top Sites number.

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Before you run off and have sex all day or try to figure out my bra size, check out my fear post up at the Huffington Post. I'm up with HBM and a few other lovely ladies.

I've Been a Very Bad Clubmom Blogger

Have you seen the amazing list of mom blogs hosted here by Clubmom? It's truly astounding. In fact, I could swear they keep adding new ones everyday.

Okay. I know they don't. But the list. It's SO long. And really, full of great stuff.

That I don't read.

There. I said it.

I don't read many of the Clubmom blogs. And I feel awful. Particularly when I have a moment to catch up and I find out all these crazy, amazing, mindblowing, and challenging things are happening. And I'm on the way outside looking in.

So, every week on Monday, I'm going to start reading a new clubmom blog. Now, I can't guarantee that I'll read it forever. But for a good full week, I will read and comment everyday. It's like getting to know someone. And if we fit, awesome. If not, no big deal.

But you realize this challenge isn't just for me, right? I'm challenging you, and other clubmom bloggers out there to check out a new blog - maybe just for a few days, or maybe for a week. Either way, I'm giving it a try.

Now who is with me?

Here's the regular clubmom read for this week: Diary of a Single Mom on the Edge.

If you'd like to participate, then make a blog heading or typelist that says "Try a New Blog On" and check back on Mondays to see who's up for the week.

I'll update you on Mondays regarding my progress. If you do read the clubmom blogs, tell me which ones and why.