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Blogging, writing, and my online life and community has been instrumental in helping me re-capture some of my old self. Although it's really my new self since what I primarily write about now is related to me being a mother.

I believe it's important for mothers to realize they can't have it all, but that they definitely do need something going on in their life besides kids and mothering. For that reason, I'm constantly encouraging new moms to start blogging.

Oh, and a part-time nanny or babysitter helps me feel that there's some me left in the ol' mommy, too. ;)

Sorry for the double post. I get a little click-happy sometimes.

I think it goes up and down. Some days I feel like I really have the time to focus on me and other days it's all Mommy, all the time. I think it'll always be like that, to an extent.

I think it goes up and down. Some days I feel like I really have the time to focus on me and other days it's all Mommy, all the time. I think it'll always be like that, to an extent.

I struggle with this and my kids are 14 and 11. Balance is the key - if one can find it. I am working on it - but sometimes life gets in the way and I backslide and have to start from scratch. I figure I'll have it all under control by the time I'm a grandma!

What Izzy said -- I think our definition of "having it all" shifts when we have kids... I think it will continually shift, as well. It's a learning experience, that's for sure!

As someone who is at 95% Mom time and 2% me time (the other 3% is somewhere between me and my husband) I agree it's time we redefined "having it all".

I often err on the side of letting my personal needs/wants slip until I suddenly realize I've been depressed for over a week. What's worse, is the impling is not getting the bestest, nicest Mom she could if I just had the chance to get away and BREATHE, and try and remember who I am.

Nap time is now my friend. I get to blog, and see that there is actually some vestige of my old pre-mommy self still in existence.

Until we get through residency, I'll just have to lower the bar for "having it all". And eat lots of chocolate.

I still struggle with these issues and my son is seven. It's always a balancing act between his needs and mine. Sometimes it's a lot easier than others.

It's been my observation that we don't really ever get to "have it all" in the popular sense. We just shift our definition of what "having it all" means.

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