Guest Post ~ From Binky (8-hours)

I’m proud to be guest posting today on a blog that I enjoy for many reasons, not the least of which is its title. Two words can say a lot when they’re as loaded as the decadent duo displayed in the new masthead. Motherhood. Uncensored. With nuts.

The best mother bloggers get that way by unwrapping truths and not worrying about who’s going to bite. They write about real issues that aren’t always sweet—depression, loss, relationships, careers, bad sex, bad hair, relocations, homecomings. But because they aren’t perfect, just like we aren’t, we do bite. And we all share the guilty pleasure.

I’m all about a life uncensored; or, as Howard Stern would say, with no bullshit. In our house--where I dwell with my husband, my 9 month old daughter and our American Pit Bull Terrier--the first amendment of the United States Constitution is held above all else. We (my husband and I, mostly) believe in freedom, political and social. It extends to the most personal aspects of our existence. We’re honest and straightforward. We don’t hold back because to do so would destabilize the strength of our convictions. Some people like this about us; others don’t invite us back to their parties. But everyone knows where we stand, even if they would prefer it not be on their property.

When it comes to motherhood, what I like to speak the most freely about is how tenuous my grasp is on all things parental. Mom-101 personalizes the concept like this: I don’t know what I’m doing either. Redneck Mommy talks about her realization that life is short, sweet and all too often, not what was expected.

Bloggers like those two, and so many others, allow us glimpses into lives that we would never have access to if they existed behind the same walls that separate so many women from each other. When the walls are up, it’s easy for me to convince myself everything’s better on the other side. That the people who live there are smarter, more beautiful, more adept at time management and more valued by those who love them. Not that Kristen, Mom-101 and T aren’t hot mamas who can multi-task and win over friends with the best of them; it’s just that their candor helps me realize that I am all those things, too.

None of us know what we’re doing. It’s not what any of us expected. But we’ve all made lives for ourselves, and made lives for others, that are built more on the honest act of living and telling about it than any insistence on doing it right the first time around.

MU is brought to you today by the number 8.

8 years since I met the man I married.

8 months since I started blogging.

8 hours of uninterrupted sleep would be nice. Really.

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[JGS]

As children we (or maybe just I) saw my parents as perfect, all knowing, as the epitome of being human, of being anything. Now I am the Daddy and I look at my Okapis frightened, overwhelmed and awed that they must look at me and think of me in the same way. I am not perfect. I am not the epitome of humanity. I am just a guy trying his best and it is nice to read that I am not the only one. Wonderful post!

[Mommy off the Record]

Nice post. I would like to get 8 hours of sleep too...but before I do, I'm going to check out YOUR blog now. Cheers!

[Her Bad Mother]

So perfectly said. It's seeing ourselves in and through all these other amazing, literate, FUNNY women that makes it all seem more manageable. Less extraordinary. More 'us.'

[Mom101]

Once again, a thoughtful and articulate bit of wisdom from Miss Binky. I agree, if it weren't for other voices saying, "this is HARD and sometimes it kind of sucks altogether", we'd be left questioning our own feelings and that can't lead to anything good. Three cheers for you and others who tell it like it is.

[mama_tulip]

Amen, sista. Amen.

Great post.

[tracey]

Nice guest appearance. Good read. So true.

[GIRLS GONE CHILD]

Hooray! 8 hours in the hizzy!

[Izzy]

You make a good point with the whole "grass is greener..." thing.

Unless someone shows you otherwise, you (or at least I) always assume everyone else is happier and better at the mom gig than you are. And it just isn't true.

And with that, I bow down to all the mom bloggers that make me feel A-OK!

I love you all :)

[TB]

Wow. I don't have children yet and I always wonder about the mysteries of motherhood. Like, do you just figure out what to do once you have a baby? Do all the things you didn't know before just come to you somehow? I guess now I have my answer.
Great post.

[Lisa B]

Cool post. I love the number 8. heehee

[fidget]

Your closing immediatly cued "C" is for cookie to play in my head. I love reading what other mom's have to say. You are right that peering into the mind of another mom reassures you that you are not a miserable failure but a NORMAL HUMAN. great entry :)

[Redneck mommy]

Aww Binky, you're too kind.

I love knowing that I'm not bumbling around in the role of a parent by myself. That there are others out there who bumble right along with me.

[Undercover Angel]

I agree with you - I don't think any mother totally knows what she's doing. My oldest is 13 now, and everyday is a whole new ballgame.

When my oldest was about 4, I was tucking him into bed one night and he said "Mom, I know we didn't come with instructions or anything, but I want you to know I think you're doing a great job!" I still get all warm and fuzzy when I remember that moment.

Blogging has helped me to see that I'm not alone, and that other mothers are in the same boat. We all learn as we go along...

[nonlineargirl]

Reading that you hold the constitution above all else, I immediately imagined a copy over your bed. Not sure if it would help one form a more perfect union... (retrieves mind from gutter)

[J's Mommy]

Great post! You captured my feelings towards blogging beautifully. I love this new found hobby because it makes me feel less alone as a mommy. I get to delight in and commiserate with other mommy experiences. It's made me a more relaxed parent for sure.